Bisexual and Christian (Reflection)

I love men, I love women, I love God.

Do you have a problem with that? If you do—deal with it.

This blog isn’t here to prove a case. My life isn’t some argument waiting to be won. This is just me. You can either understand it or not. That’s your choice.

Sometimes, I see a man I find emotionally attractive. Sometimes, it’s a woman. That’s just what it is. I’m not confused. I’m not making a big deal out of it. It’s simply a feeling. Calm down. Not everything needs to be dissected or turned into a crisis.

Honestly, the real problem is that people don’t know how to mind their business. Everyone thinks their opinion deserves airtime. Just… shush.

Anyway, I digress. I knew I liked both genders back in high school. Around that same time, I was growing into my faith. And I remember asking myself: Do I want to stay in a faith that doesn’t fully accept me? Because I see myself as composed of many parts: Man, Nigerian, Black, Christian, Bisexual, Demisexual, and more.

The first way I’ve learned to navigate these “contrasts” is by accepting that they are all true. And that takes time, I can’t lie to myself about who I love. And I definitely can’t lie about how deeply I love God. He is my friend like no other, my Father like no other.

But here’s the tension: they don’t agree. The Bible is clear that homosexuality is a sin. That’s not something I’m here to debate.

So what do I do? Gain one, lose the other? Deny one, betray myself?

Right now, I walk the line. I embrace and limit both. I don’t act on attraction because I’m demisexual, and because fornication is a sin in my faith. So, no, I don’t explore.

And here’s a little letter to society:

Dear Christian Society,

We, Christians, LGBTQIA+ community members, already know what the Bible says. Trust us—we’ve read it, wrestled with it, and prayed through it.

You don’t need to remind us. You don’t need to hover. Remember what Jesus said: He came for the sick, not the whole. So chill. Don’t cast stones. Don’t pretend to know our hearts better than we do. Don’t assume. And most of all, stop forcing your version of truth down our throats.

Let us walk our journey in love, faith, and grace.

Thanks for reading, Love.